Is there a book or reference manual one can purchase that explains how to better utilize the VB.Net 2003 environment to fully utilize Access tables programmatically?

I am working on an application that requires the user to select a task and then the program performs it ---- without the user having the opportunity to screw things up.

So far, I am using Wrox's Beginning VB.Net 2nd Edition and Wrox's Beginning VB.Net Databases. They've whetted my appetite, but fail to satisfy the programmable functionality I enjoyed in VB 5.0.

The specifics I need include how to design and utilize complex SQL functions strictly within the code, NOT through datagrids, etc. For example, a table load that is beyond the basic table load in that I want to be able to check the table for existing values before attempting to insert the row. Basically, if the row is there, it's an update, not an insert. And this all has to be done programmatically as the technical ability of my end users peaks at playing Solitaire.

One book I used as a beginner in VB.net programming was "Visual Basic.Net: an object oriented approach" ISBN 0-619-01658-2 It wasn't bad for understanding the new object oriented .net approach. A more advanced book is: "Advanced Programing using Visual Basic.net" ISBN 0-07-251239-3

And these books show how to programmatically insert/update/delete with an Access database?

They show how to update, delete and insert data into a Access database and any other database also although a little weak on non microsoft database's. Data validation is also covered.