Hi there,
The main reason for these check boxes not to show up is that your data source doesn't support editing, or because the underlying table doesn't have a primary. In the latter case, check your table and make sure at least one column (like the Id column which can be an identity) is the primary key for the table. Right-click the column and choose Set Primary Key if that isn't the case.
To edit remote tables, you can download a copy of the free SQL Server Management Studio Express:
http://www.microsoft.com/express/sql/default.aspx
Hope this helps,
Imar