You aren't going to get picture 2 unless you go back and use Xcode 3. Xcode 3 is still available, and if you have no prior experience, it would probably be worth the time to do the project in Xcode 3 first, and then repeat it in Xcode 4. The documentation "Xcode 4 Transition Guide" will be be more useful if you have used Xcode 3, but if you have not read through it you should. If you wish to avoid this, there are a few books out that use Xcode 4, Neuberg's book, "Programming iOS 4" Conway and Hillegass 2nd edition, "iOS Programmming, The Big Nerd Ranch Guide" (both excellently reviewed books that I have not actually been through) and Kochan's 3rd edition of his excellent Objective C 2.0 book (I have been through both the first and second edition).
For what it is worth all of the interface objects can be found by clicking on the .xib file, clicking the right-most view button (upper right corner on the Workspace there are three view buttons) When the utility area opens, you will see 4 buttons near the bottom. (Document, Braces, Block, and Film strip icons) Click the Block icon and you will be presented with the object library.