Aha, thanks for your advice!
But I did find a better way I think. Rather than include the class defs for the AbsoluteLayout with the jar, the Netbeans people suggest that you convert the GUI to a grid bag layout when distributing. So, by changing the big container JFrame to grid bag, and all smaller frames to null layout, I have an identical UI without the need for the absolute layout which everything was designed in.
If you want to see how it turned out, take a look here!
http://members.shaw.ca/webspacefordrit/pet/
It's a simple game, but people seem to enjoy it. Read the how-to if you're unsure how to play and need clarification!